There’s a book I used to read to my kids when they were young, and that I now read to my grandchildren, called “Guess How Much I Love You” by Sam McBratney and Anita Jeram. In it, Big Nutbrown Hare stretches out his arms as wide as he can in order to show Little Nutbrown Hare how much he loves him. “I love you this much!” he says.
Well, here’s God saying to us, “Guess how much I love you.”
“I love you this much,” Jesus tells us, stretching out His arms as wide as they can go.
This rescue, this demonstration of sacrificial love, began 33 years earlier when Jesus left heaven to appear among us as a helpless baby. “I love you this much, too,” He tells us.
Merry Christmas, my friends. May God’s hope, peace, joy, and love infuse your Christmas, and the days beyond.
Christmas is a time of joy, hope, peace, and celebration, but at its heart lies the most important theme of all: love. The story of Christmas is the story of sacrificial love—a love so deep and enduring that it changed the course of history. It changed my life, and probably yours, too. This love is woven throughout the events leading up to the birth of Jesus, expressed in the lives of Mary, Joseph, and Jesus Himself.
Let’s reflect on the sacrificial love in the Christmas story and consider how it can inspire us to love more deeply, selflessly, and courageously.
Mary: A Mother’s Love
When the angel Gabriel appeared to Mary, his message was strange and startling:
“Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus.”
On a side note, I am always amused with the depiction of angels in Christmas decor and plays. They are usually gentle-looking, tame, like cherubic children. The reality of their appearance must be much different from that, though, because the first thing they always say to people who see them is, “Don’t be afraid!” I assume from this that they must be terrifying to behold.
Anyway, back to Mary and her encounter with Gabriel. Mary was a young woman—likely a teenager—when she received this shocking assignment. She could have doubted, or maybe even refused. She could have allowed fear to overshadow her faith. But instead, she responded with incredible humility and obedience:
“I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May your word to me be fulfilled.”
Despite the fear, uncertainty, and potential social fallout, Mary chose to trust God. And based on my experience with pregnant women, I am confident that Mary’s love for Jesus began to grow as soon as she recovered from the shock of Gabriel’s visit. As her body began to nurture the mysterious baby growing inside her, Mary embraced her role as His mother. Her love for Jesus became a picture of the tender, sacrificial love that defines motherhood.
Joseph: A Protector’s Love
Joseph faced an equally challenging test of love. When he learned that his fiance was pregnant, he could have publicly exposed her, protecting his own reputation. Instead, he chose a path of grace and courage. After an angel appeared to him in a dream, Joseph embraced the unbelievable truth that Mary’s child was conceived by the Holy Spirit.
“Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”
Instead of protecting himself, Joseph chose to shield Mary from shame and danger, even at great personal risk. In a culture where their situation could have made them social outcasts—or worse—Joseph protected Mary and lovingly stepped into the role of earthly father to a child who was not biologically his. Out of love, he accepted what must have been a daunting assignment. I mean, how do you raise a child who was conceived by the Holy Spirit? Joseph’s selflessness and commitment stand as an excellent example of love in action.
Jesus: The Ultimate Sacrifice
Of all the examples of sacrificial love in the Christmas story, none compares to the love of Jesus. Before His birth, Jesus existed in perfect unity with God the Father and the Holy Spirit, dwelling in heaven—a place of complete peace and joy, untouched by pain or evil or sin. Yet He willingly left all of that behind to come to earth as a helpless baby.
Think about what this meant. The Creator of the universe humbled Himself to take on human flesh, relying on His earthly parents for survival and enduring the struggles of human life. As Paul writes in Philippians:
“Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.”
Jesus’ birth was just the beginning of His sacrificial journey. He knew the path ahead would lead to rejection, suffering, and ultimately the cross. Yet He came anyway, motivated by His boundless love for humanity, for you and for me. While He was here, He reminded His friends (including you and me):
The Christmas story is a powerful reminder that God Himself is the source of all love. As the Apostle John tells us:
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”
Through Mary, Joseph, and Jesus, we see love lived out in ways that challenge us to reflect on our own lives. Their stories call us to consider how we can embody sacrificial love in our relationships, our communities, and our world.
Reflect on Love
As we prepare to celebrate Christmas, in spite of the extreme busyness of these days, we should take a few moments to reflect on these extraordinary examples of love. Let’s also consider the ways we’ve experienced love in our own lives. Who has shown you sacrificial love? Who has inspired you to love bigger and bolder? How can you live into that, in big and small ways, as you go about the next few days, and the days, weeks, and months beyond Christmas?
The love of Christmas is not just a cute little story for a kids’ Christmas play—it’s a reality we’re invited to fold into the way we lead our lives. God’s love for us, demonstrated in the life and sacrifice of Jesus, empowers us to love others with courage and selflessness.
Conclusion
The love of Christmas is a love that changes everything. It’s the love of a young mother saying “yes” to God’s plan, of an earthly father offering protection and grace, and of a Savior leaving the glory of heaven to rescue us. This is the love we celebrate at Christmas—a love that transforms hearts and brings light into the darkest places.
This season, let’s slow down in the midst of the busyness and reflect on the love that came to live among us. Let’s celebrate the good in this mostly evil world, remembering that God’s love is greater than any darkness we face. And let’s share that love with others, letting it shine brightly as a beacon of hope.
I would like to carry the love of Christmas with me, not just on December 25th but every day. How about you? We need to remember that God’s love is not ours to keep, but something we must share generously. God will give us more. May we be inspired by Mary’s trust, Joseph’s courage, and Jesus’ sacrifice to love others boldly and selflessly. For in loving others, we reflect the heart of God, who is love.
Will you share your own stories or reflections of love in the comments?
As we journey through Advent, preparing our hearts for Christmas and the arrival of the Christ child, the theme of joy weaves itself through our celebrations. We sing it in carols, see it in decorations, and hear it in Christmas greetings. People generally seem a little bit nicer during this time. But what is this joy we celebrate? Is it the same as happiness, or is it something deeper?
Let’s reflect on the difference between happiness and joy, and the boundless well of joy that is ours in Christ this season and every day.
Happiness vs. Joy
Happiness can be fleeting. It’s a response to favorable circumstances—receiving a thoughtful gift, enjoying time with loved ones, or seeing your favorite sports team win. While happiness is a wonderful feeling, it’s mostly tied to our external environment, making it fragile. When circumstances change, happiness can quickly dissipate.
Joy, on the other hand, runs much deeper. It’s not dependent on what’s happening around us but flows from a wellspring within us.
My Dog Named Happy
I have a golden doodle dog I named Happy. This name suits her (I think dogs tend to live into the names we give them), but I sometimes wonder if I should have named her Joy instead. Here’s why I say that. There’s a little park we pass through on our daily walks. Since there’s never anyone around at that park early in the morning when we’re there, and since she’s a well-trained dog, I allow her a little time to run free, off her leash. As soon as I release her, she runs in crazy circles, flinging her cares to the wind. When she’s running with such reckless abandon, the French phrase Joie de vivrealways pops into my head. It translates to “joy of living” or “joy of life.” It refers to a cheerful enjoyment of life, an exuberant attitude, or a zest for life that is marked by an enthusiastic appreciation for the present moment and all its experiences.
Happy the Smiling Dog
I try to live like that, but I don’t always succeed like Happy does. I want to carry with me throughout each day an infectious optimism. I want to always delight in simple pleasures, relationships, and the beauty of everyday life. Such joy is not tied to material wealth or external achievements but rather a deep sense of gratitude, contentment, and passion for living.
For followers of Christ, joy like this is available to us. It is a deep well that comes from knowing we are loved, even on our worst day. It results from recognizing that God doesn’t condemn us—on the contrary, He saved us by sending us His Son. It is rooted in the unchanging nature of God’s promises rather than the shifting tides of life. God holds us and our futures in His strong, capable hands. When I think of that, I feel like running around in crazy circles myself.
Nehemiah reminds us of the deep truth of the joy of life with God when he writes:
Joy is more than a fleeting emotion—it is a source of strength that sustains us through life’s valleys and peaks.
The Deep Well of Joy in Christmas
At Christmas, we have every reason to rejoice because we celebrate the coming of our Savior. The baby born in Bethlehem is not just a tender child in a manger; He is the fulfillment of God’s promise to save us. This truth is the foundation of our joy, a joy that nothing in this world can take away.
The angel declared this profound joy when announcing Jesus’ birth to the shepherds:
“Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord.” (Luke 2:10-11 NIV)
The good news of Christ’s birth is the reason for the deep, abiding joy that we celebrate. This joy is not limited to Christmas Day—it is available to us every day, in every season.
Joy to the World
One of my favorite Christmas carols, “Joy to the World,” captures the essence of this joy. Isaac Watts wrote the lyrics based on Psalm 98. Verses from this psalm include:
Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth, burst into jubilant song with music; make music to the Lord with the harp, with the harp and the sound of singing, with trumpets and the blast of the ram’s horn— shout for joy before the Lord, the King. Let the rivers clap their hands, let the mountains sing together for joy…
Here’s an example of how Watts interpreted these verses:
Joy to the world, the Lord is come! Let earth receive her King; Let every heart prepare Him room, And heaven and nature sing.
“Joy to the World”, by Isaac Watts
This hymn reminds us that the joy of Christmas is not just for a select few but for the entire world. Jesus’ arrival is the fulfillment of God’s plan to redeem creation and restore it to Himself. When we sing “Joy to the World,” we proclaim the incredible truth that the King has come and His reign brings hope, peace, and joy to all who receive Him.
Living in the Joy of Christmas
For those of us who have accepted God’s gracious gift of salvation through Jesus, the joy of Christmas is not confined to the Advent season. It is a wellspring we can draw from every day. When life is challenging, when happiness feels out of reach, the joy of knowing Jesus sustains us.
Look at that guy in the picture. If I could jump more than an inch and a half off the ground, that would be me when I think about the countless ways God has blessed me.
Joy that makes you jump like that is not based on external circumstances but on the unshakable truth of God’s love and faithfulness.
Conclusion
This Advent season, will you make room in your heart for the joy of Christmas? We should all reflect on this incredible gift: the tiny baby Jesus, the Creator of all things who put on humanity to come to earth and save us from ourselves. The Bringer of eternal joy. Whether we are singing carols, gathering with loved ones, or spending quiet moments walking with Jesus in prayer, let’s remember that the joy we celebrate is a joy that lasts—one that transcends our circumstances and anchors us in God’s promises.
May the joy of the Lord be your strength this season and every day to come. Rejoice, for the Lord is come!
As we move through the Advent season, one of the most profound gifts we are invited to reflect on is peace. Yet, if we’re honest, Christmas often feels like anything but peaceful. Between the demands of shopping, family gatherings, and year-end responsibilities, this time of year can become a whirlwind of activity that leaves us feeling anything but calm.
But what if we paused? What if, in the midst of our busyness, we took time to reflect on the peace that Jesus came to bring? This has been a great way of finding peace during Christmas throughout my life.
Isaiah 9:6 describes Jesus as the Prince of Peace, a title that reminds us of His ultimate mission: to reconcile us to God and offer a peace that transcends all understanding. This peace is not just a fleeting feeling or the absence of conflict. It’s a deep, abiding assurance that with Jesus on our side, there is nothing that can truly stand against us.
This is the meaning of peace in Advent.
Peace Through Jesus’ Presence
Jesus’ peace is unique because it is not dependent on our circumstances. In John 14:27, Jesus tells His disciples:
This peace is not like the temporary calm the world offers. I appreciate the calm the world offers, when it has any to offer. Today, my wife and I kayaked in Silver Springs, one of the calmest and most peaceful places I’ve been in a long time. We were blessed to be splashing around with at least a dozen manatees, not to mention many sea turtles and a wide variety of exotic birds.
Manatees at Silver Springs, FLGreat Egret at Silver Springs, FLPainted Turtles at Silver Springs, FL
But sadly, it’s only temporary. We packed up and drove back into our regular lives.
This is nothing like the peace that Jesus offers. His peace is rooted in His presence. It’s a peace that comes from knowing that no matter what we face, He is with us and for us. We don’t have to drive a long way to find His peace, and that’s one of the beautiful things about it. We can carry it with us, if we can get out of our own way to find it within us.
Paul echoes this promise in 2 Thessalonians 3:16, saying:
Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.
Through the gift of His presence, Jesus offers us peace in every moment and every situation.
Peace Despite Challenges
Life is rarely smooth sailing. We face trials, uncertainties, and moments of profound loss. But the peace of Christmas is a reminder that we don’t face these challenges alone. With Jesus on our side, we can live with confidence, knowing that no obstacle is too great for Him. Through his letter to the Romans, the Apostle Paul reminds us:
This truth anchors our hearts. No matter what comes our way, Jesus is our defender, comforter, and source of strength. His peace is not an absence of hardship but a presence that calms our hearts in the midst of it.
Isaiah 54:10 beautifully captures the enduring nature of God’s peace:
Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.
Even when the world feels chaotic and uncertain, God’s peace remains steady.
Taking Time to Embrace His Peace
One of the great ironies of Christmas is that we rarely think of it as a season of peace. Our calendars fill up, our to-do lists grow longer, and we become consumed by the hustle and bustle of the holidays. But the peace of Christmas invites us to step away from the noise and rest in the presence of the Prince of Peace.
This season, will you make space to reflect on His peace? This has been my focus throughout the week, and I plan to continue. Whether it’s through a quiet moment of prayer, reading scripture, or simply pausing to remember that He is with us, these moments can help us reconnect with the true meaning of Christmas. Here’s something else I like to do: when a particularly meaningful Christmas song (i.e., one that actually talks about Jesus’ arrival) comes on, I take a moment to step into its peace. I imagine how I would feel if I were there on that holy, silent night. I stare into the face of the baby who came to bring me peace and save me from myself. You can use this approach to turn many Christmas songs into Christian devotions during the holidays.
Jesus didn’t come to add to our busyness—He came to bring us rest, comfort, and quiet confidence in the midst of life’s challenges. His peace isn’t just for serene moments when we can escape to a river, a garden, or a forest; it’s a daily gift that equips us to face whatever comes our way with courage and trust. This is what it means to understand Jesus as the Prince of Peace.
Conclusion
This Christmas, will you embrace the peace that Jesus offers? I have been working on this, and plan to keep it up. Let’s set aside the distractions and the demands and remember that the Prince of Peace came to reconcile us to God and give us hope for the future.
Take time this season to rest in His presence and reflect on His promises. Remember that His peace is always available to you—not just during the quiet moments but in the chaos of life as well. With Jesus on your side, there is no challenge too great and no storm too fierce.
May the peace of Christmas bring you comfort, strength, and joy—not just during this Advent season, but every day throughout the year.
As we enter the season of Advent, we often find ourselves surrounded by messages of hope. It’s in the lights decorating our homes, the songs playing in stores, and even in the wishes of good cheer exchanged between neighbors. But what exactly are we hoping for? Upon what are we placing our hope? Is your hope anchored in something lasting or something fleeting? Take a moment to consider: What are you hoping for this Christmas season?
If I’m being transparent, I have to admit that it’s easy to get caught up in daily challenges and more significant struggles, which can have a tendency to cause me to misplace my hope for the future in worldly things—my wife, family, and friends; my career or related side hustles; my investment portfolio; the sports teams I root for; or even the government.
These hopes aren’t inherently wrong, but when we let them become our primary focus, when we try to make them the things we look toward to brighten our future, we risk missing out on the true hope of Christmas.
The hope of Christmas is not about the material things or even the temporary joys that we find during the holidays. It’s about something far more significant—the hope that comes from knowing we are part of an eternal story, written by a loving Creator who gave us His Son. This hope means that for those of us who have accepted the gift of salvation that Jesus offers, our eternal victory over all of life’s challenges is already secured.
A Deeper Hope
Worldly hopes are often temporary and tied to circumstances, but the hope of Christmas is anchored in something that transcends our immediate challenges.
I’ve shared previously about the roller coaster ride that has been my career over the last few years. One of the ups and downs I’ve grappled with is the longevity of my current job. When I focus on that, I have a tendency to place my hope in new opportunities, either with my current employer or with other companies. While there’s nothing wrong with pursuing new positions, I have to remember that these challenges are temporary in the scheme of eternity, and that God is working for my good. He has a plan for me.
Our lives are marked by struggles, and sometimes those struggles are significant. Financial hardships, strained relationships, health battles, and personal losses can make it easy to lose sight of hope. When we let our current circumstances dictate our outlook on life, we lose sight of the eternal promise that God has given us—a promise of an eternal future with Him, free from suffering of any kind. The real hope of Christmas reminds us that there is so much more than what we see right now.
The writer of Hebrews reminds us:
We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, where our forerunner, Jesus, has entered on our behalf.
The hope we have in Christ isn’t a fleeting feeling or a wishful thought. It’s an anchor—something that holds us steady even when the storms of life threaten to pull us under. It keeps us grounded, knowing that our eternal future is secure because of Jesus’ birth, His death, and His resurrection. This hope allows us to face today’s challenges with a different perspective—one that is not weighed down by fear but lifted by the assurance of God’s promises.
In Lamentations 3:22-26, the prophet Jeremiah writes:
Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, ‘The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.’ The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him; it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.
This passage is a powerful reminder that God’s love and mercy are unending. Even in the midst of sorrow or pain, we can find hope in His steadfast love. The hope of Christmas is the assurance that God is with us—not just during the moments of joy but in the midst of our pain and suffering as well. His compassions are new every morning, giving us strength to face whatever lies ahead.
Whenever I grapple with career uncertainty, I have found and continue to find comfort in God. I regularly need to reset my hope from things of this world to the hope of eternity.
The True Hope of Christmas
I have to remind myself that the true hope of Christmas is found in Jesus—the Savior who stepped down from heaven to bring us redemption and everlasting life. The Apostle John points out:
Jesus coming to dwell among us is the ultimate expression of God’s love and the foundation of our hope.
This Advent season, I want to remind myself daily that my ultimate hope doesn’t reside in my job, or any of the things of this world. Would it help you to focus on that, too? Hope is not found in gifts, parties, or even in the temporary happiness that can come from being surrounded by loved ones. It’s found in the truth that we have been given a Savior who has secured our eternity. Because of Him, we have the hope of eternal life—a life free from pain, sadness, fear, or loss.
What hopes have been guiding your heart this season?
As we prepare for Christmas, let’s anchor ourselves in this hope. Let’s remember that no matter what challenges we face today, there is a future awaiting us that is more glorious than anything we could imagine. Jesus is our hope—the hope that does not disappoint, the hope that remains firm and secure, and the hope that carries us through every season of life.
Conclusion
As you celebrate this season, find small ways to anchor your heart in the eternal hope Christ offers, whether it’s reading a favorite scripture, spending time in prayer, or sharing the love of Christ with someone who needs it. Let’s fix our eyes on Jesus and the eternal hope He offers. We should remind ourselves and others that the hope of Christmas goes beyond the fleeting joys of this world and points us to the promise of an eternal future with our loving Savior.
How can you achieve those things? Perhaps start each day by reading a scripture about hope or spend a moment in quiet prayer, focusing on the eternal promises of God.
How will you choose to anchor your hope in Jesus this Advent season?
May this hope bring you peace, joy, and a renewed sense of purpose, not just during this Christmas season, but every day throughout the year.
I must confess that in the early days of my faith journey, I had to learn the humility of gratitude toward God for the blessings in my life. Like many people, I once thought that the good things in my life were purely the result of my own hard work. But as I matured in my relationship with God, I began to realize that everything I achieved was ultimately a blessing from Him.
It’s a lesson I’m glad I learned. I’ll explain why.
I discovered a beautiful truth: God invites us into what I like to call “the blessed exchange”—a trade of our gratitude for His abundant gifts of peace, joy, love, and hope.
It’s rare to find a deal that feels completely one-sided in our favor. Usually, you get what you pay for, a balance between what you give and what you get. But as I’ve found many times in my life, things work differently with God. For those of us who are followers of Christ, God offers us this amazing, lopsided, yet blessed exchange.
It deeply transformed my life when I began acknowledging His lordship over my life and grabbed hold of God’s generous offer.
The Gift of Peace and Joy in Exchange for Gratitude
God’s promise of peace and joy in exchange for gratitude is reflected throughout Scripture. The Apostle Paul knew what it was like to face difficult circumstances, and yet he offered an incredible insight into how gratitude can transform our response to hardship. In Philippians 4:6-7, he writes:
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Here, we see that thanking God regardless of our circumstances plays a key role in unlocking God’s peace regardless of our circumstances. When we present our requests with thanksgiving—acknowledging God’s goodness even in our struggles—He responds by giving us a peace that is beyond human comprehension. It’s not a fair trade by any means; we bring our thanks, and in return, He guards our hearts and minds with His perfect peace.
Similarly, joy is connected to gratitude. In Psalm 107, the psalmist repeatedly calls on God’s people to give thanks:
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.
Psalm 107 recounts stories of people in distress, people who cried out to God, and then experienced His deliverance. It reminds us that even when we face challenges, we have reason to give thanks because of God’s enduring love. When we choose gratitude, it opens our eyes to see His goodness, which in turn brings us joy.
This lesson on gratitude is not limited to ancient scripture; it applies to our lives today.
For me, probably the best example of this is my relationship with my wife—a blessing that brings me great joy. It hasn’t been without its challenges getting to this point, and of course, we still have occasional conflicts, but when I started thanking God each day for what a blessing she is in my life no matter what was happening between us at the time, that was when I began experiencing a deep-seated joy from our marriage. I’ll take this over the grumbling, discontentment, and bitterness so prevalent in today’s culture.
Love and Hope as Part of the Exchange
Gratitude also connects us to God’s love and hope. In Colossians 3:15, Paul writes:
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
Gratitude shifts our focus away from what we lack and onto the abundance of God’s love that surrounds us. When we’re thankful, we’re more aware of His constant care and the hope we have in Him. It reminds us that, no matter what is happening around us, we are deeply loved by a God who has a good plan for our lives. This hope is not wishful thinking—it is a confident expectation rooted in God’s faithfulness.
For me, finding this hope as an anchor for my soul has been the best way to feel an inner peace over the last several years in spite of uncertainty in my career. It has helped me tremendously to focus on God’s abundant blessings in my life and to remember that He is working for my good, even when I can’t see what He’s doing. Instead of complaining about the uncertainty or letting fear or doubt consume my thoughts, I remind myself of the ways God has blessed my career and thank Him for the abilities and opportunities He has given me.
The Best Deal Ever
This is why I’m so glad I learned this lesson earlier in my relationship with God: the deal He offers us is truly lopsided. We bring God our thanks, which often feels small and imperfect, and He exchanges it for something infinitely greater—peace that guards us, joy that sustains us, love that surrounds us, and hope that anchors us. This blessed exchange is an incredible gift, available to each of us when we choose to live with gratitude.
Where entitlement leaves us frustrated with what we think we deserve, gratitude opens our eyes to see all that we’ve freely been given by a loving God.
In America, this is the week we celebrate Thanksgiving. As we move through our weeks toward that day, let’s reflect on the power of this blessed exchange. Let’s be intentional about giving God our thanks, even when life is challenging, knowing that He will always meet us with an abundance of blessings. You don’t have to wait until “Black Friday” to get the best deal ever.
As we celebrate Thanksgiving, I invite you to thank God for the blessings in your life. It’s an incredible way to experience His hope, peace, joy, and love. These are the gifts that can sustain us, long after the holiday leftovers are gone.
Last week, we explored the transformative power of gratitude and how it enriches our lives and supports our mental health. This week, I want to delve into something that stands in stark contrast to gratitude: entitlement. Entitlement is a sneaky, dangerous mindset that can creep in without us realizing it, and it has the power to rob us of our joy, peace, and appreciation for the blessings that God generously pours into our lives.
When we develop a sense of entitlement, we start to believe that we deserve certain things simply because we want them or because we’ve done something we think makes us worthy. It’s an attitude that says, “I deserve this,” or, “This is owed to me.” But entitlement is the enemy of true gratitude because it shifts our focus away from the grace of God and leads us to believe that we somehow earned the blessings we’ve received.
Entitlement Steals Joy
When we start thinking we deserve certain things, it’s easy to lose sight of the blessings that are already in our lives. Rather than feeling grateful for what we have, we begin to feel discontent about what we think we lack. Entitlement whispers that what we have is not enough and that we deserve more, and this robs us of the joy that comes from being content and thankful. Instead of rejoicing in the blessings God gives us, we are left feeling frustrated, envious, or dissatisfied.
The Apostle Paul provides a sharp contrast to the entitled mindset. Writing from prison, he said:
I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Paul understood that true contentment does not come from getting what we think we deserve, but from relying on God’s grace and strength. Entitlement blinds us to the blessings that are already present in our lives, while gratitude helps us see and appreciate them.
God’s Grace, Not What We Deserve
One of the most dangerous aspects of entitlement is that it distorts our understanding of God’s grace. When we feel entitled, we begin to believe that we’ve earned God’s favor through our actions or that we are somehow deserving of His blessings. But the truth is that everything we receive from God is a gift—completely undeserved and given out of His great love and mercy.
In his letter to the church in Rome, Paul reminds us:
If we received what we truly deserved, it would be eternal separation from God, and nothing good comes from that. But, in His mercy, God gives us what we need rather than what we deserve. It’s worth remembering this when we allow entitlement to sneak in the back door of our lives, the next time we feel like God owes us something. He gives us forgiveness, love, and eternal life through Jesus Christ. What more should we expect? This is why gratitude is such a vital part of our faith—it acknowledges that every good thing we have is a result of God’s grace and not our own merit.
In Psalm 103, David expresses this truth beautifully:
The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him.
When we shift our focus from what we think we deserve to what God has graciously given us, we find freedom, joy, and peace. We see our lives not as a collection of things we are owed but as a collection of blessings that have been poured out on us by a God who loves us more than we can fully know or understand.
Breaking the Chains of Entitlement
If you find yourself struggling with feelings of entitlement, know that you are not alone. This mindset is one that we all wrestle with at times. The good news is that God invites us to lay down our entitlement and pick up gratitude instead.
Here are a few things I’ve tried over the years to try to break free from the chains of entitlement, in case it’s helpful:
Recognize God as the Giver of All Good Things: James 1:17 tells us, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights.” When we remember that everything we have is a gift from God, it becomes easier to let go of entitlement and embrace gratitude.
Practice Thankfulness: Make a habit of thanking God daily for the blessings in your life—both big and small. Gratitude shifts our focus away from what we think we lack and helps us see the abundance we already have.
Serve Others: One of the best ways to break free from entitlement is to serve others. When we put others’ needs before our own, we are reminded that life is not all about us. Jesus said, “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve” (Matthew 20:28). Serving others helps us develop a heart of humility and gratitude.
Remember God’s Grace: Reflect on the fact that God does not give us what we deserve but instead offers us His grace and mercy. This should fill our hearts with overwhelming gratitude and help us let go of any feelings of entitlement.
Conclusion: Gratitude Over Entitlement
Entitlement is a thief that steals our joy, contentment, and appreciation for the blessings God has given us. It leads us to believe that we deserve more, blinding us to the abundance we already have. But when we choose gratitude, we open our eyes to the beauty and grace that fill our lives.
Instead of asking, “What do I deserve?” let’s ask, “How can I be grateful for what God has given me?” Instead of demanding more, let’s thank God for His grace, which gives us far more than we could ever deserve. Let’s break free from entitlement and embrace a life of thankfulness, contentment, and joy.
As Thanksgiving approaches, I find myself reflecting on the power of gratitude. This holiday invites us to pause and consider all that we are thankful for, even in the midst of life’s challenges. Psalm 107 has been on my mind recently, and it feels like the perfect scripture for this season of gratitude. It’s a psalm that calls on us, again and again, to give thanks to the Lord for His unfailing love and His wonderful deeds for humankind.
Psalm 107: A Call to Gratitude
Psalm 107 begins with these words:
Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever.
This verse is a powerful reminder that God’s love is constant and unchanging. The entire psalm goes on to recount stories of people in distress—wanderers in the desert, prisoners, those facing sickness, and sailors caught in a storm—all of whom cried out to God and were delivered by Him. Each time, the psalmist urges the people to give thanks, not just because God rescued them, but because His love endures. Psalm 107 shows us that gratitude isn’t just for the times when things are easy. It’s for all times, because God is always working, even when we may not see it in the moment.
I love the way this psalm repeatedly calls us to give thanks, regardless of our circumstances. It reminds us that God is with us through all of life’s valleys and peaks. Sometimes, it’s only when we look back that we realize just how much He was working on our behalf, even during the times that felt the most difficult.
Seeing God’s Hand in Retrospect
One of the things I’m most thankful for this year is the perspective that hindsight gives. As I look back over my life, I can see so many moments when God was working in ways I didn’t understand at the time. There have been rough patches—times when I felt lost, overwhelmed, or discouraged. In those moments, it was hard to see the bigger picture. But now, with the passage of time, I can see how those challenges shaped me, how God used them to help me grow and bring me to the place I am today.
This has been especially on my heart lately because I’ve been helping my younger daughter through some difficult times. Comforting her through her struggles has reminded me of my own tough seasons and how, even when I couldn’t see it, God was right there, guiding me through and working on my behalf. It gives me hope that He is doing the same for her now—that one day, she will look back and see His hand at work, even in the moments that feel overwhelming.
The Power of Gratitude
Gratitude has a unique way of changing our perspective. When we intentionally choose to give thanks, even in the midst of hardship, it shifts our focus from what is lacking to what we have been given. It reminds us that God is working behind the scenes to pave the path to peace for us. It helps us recognize God’s faithfulness, and it helps us remember that we are never alone. Studies have even shown that practicing gratitude can have a positive impact on our mental health, helping to reduce stress and improve overall well-being.
The Apostle Paul knew the importance of gratitude, even when things weren’t easy. In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, he writes:
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
Paul isn’t saying that we should be thankful forall circumstances, but that we can (and should) be thankful inall circumstances. The difference is significant. When we give thanks in the midst of our struggles, we acknowledge that God is still good, that His love endures, and that He is with us—no matter what.
A Heart of Thanksgiving
As we approach Thanksgiving, I want to encourage you (and myself) to take some time over the next few weeks (and beyond) to reflect on God’s goodness. Look back over your life and think about the times when you’ve seen His hand at work. Maybe there were moments when you felt lost, but now you can see how He guided you through. Or maybe there were times when you were in need, and He provided in ways you never expected.
Psalm 107 invites us to remember and give thanks. Let’s take that invitation to heart this week. As we run up to Thanksgiving, let’s start taking time to give thanks to the Lord, not just for the good times, but for His presence in every season of our lives. Let’s thank Him for the ways He has shaped us through our challenges and for the hope we have that He is always working for our good.
Let them give thanks to the Lord for His unfailing love and His wonderful deeds for mankind.
This Thanksgiving, let’s remember that gratitude is more than a feeling—it’s a choice. It’s a way of seeing the world, of recognizing God’s goodness, even in the midst of life’s valleys and peaks. Let’s give thanks with full hearts, knowing that God’s love endures forever.
As you may have noticed, Election Day in the United States is in just a couple of days. But fear not, this will not be a political post. As hard as it is to believe, there won’t even be any political ads anywhere in this article.
Believe me when I say that I understand how easy it is to feel overwhelmed by the weight of our choices in this election. The debates, the ads, the news headlines—all of them clamor for our attention, urging us to believe that this moment is the most consequential in our lives, and that the outcome will shape the very course of our future. And while this election is important, I want to offer a gentle reminder to myself and to you: As followers of Christ, our hope is not ultimately found in the results of an election, but in the One who holds all of history in His hands.
When Paul wrote to the Corinthians, he encouraged them to keep their eyes fixed on an eternal perspective, even in the face of challenges. He wrote:
“For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
Paul knew what it meant to face hardship, injustice, and suffering. And yet, he reminded the believers that, in the grand scope of eternity, even the heaviest burdens we carry today are ultimately “light and momentary” compared to the glory that awaits us. No matter how troubling or chaotic the current moment may feel, we are called to look beyond it—to fix our eyes on the One who never changes, the One whose kingdom is not shaken by election results.
The Joy of Eternal Perspective
When Jesus spoke to His disciples about worry, He urged them not to be anxious about tomorrow but to trust in God’s provision. In Matthew 6:33, He said:
This is such an important reminder for us, especially in times like these. Our first priority, our highest calling, is not to place our hope in a political outcome, but to seek God’s kingdom above all else. When we align our hearts with His, we find a peace that goes beyond the shifting tides of this world.
It’s natural to care deeply about the issues that affect our communities and our country. God calls us to be good stewards of the opportunities we have to make a difference in this world. But at the same time, we need to remember that the ultimate condition of our hearts matters more than the temporary outcomes of an election. No matter which way the results go, God is still God, and He’s still good. He is still in control. And His love for us remains constant and unshakable.
Paul encourages us:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
This peace, the peace that transcends understanding, is what we can hold onto in the midst of uncertainty. It’s a peace that comes not from who sits in positions of earthly power, but from knowing that our hearts are secure in Christ, the King of Kings.
Voting with Our Hearts
So what do I mean when I suggest that you “vote with your heart for your heart”? It means that as we cast our ballots—or as we reflect on the choices we’ve already made—we remember that the most important vote we cast is not on a ballot, but in our daily walk with God. Each day, we decide where we’re placing our trust, our hope, and our sense of security.
Today, let’s choose to place those things in the hands of our unchanging Savior. Let’s remember that our identity is not defined by a political party or the outcome of an election, but by the fact that we are children of God, loved and held by Him.
No matter what happens on Election Day, let’s keep our hearts fixed on what is eternal. Let’s seek God’s kingdom first, trust that He is in control, and share the hope we have in Christ with a world that desperately needs it. Let’s vote with our hearts for our hearts, making sure that above all else, our lives reflect the unshakable hope we have in Jesus.
In a world that often seems filled with endless to-do lists, challenges, and disappointments, it’s easy for joy to slip through our fingers. We tend to think of joy as synonymous with happiness—something that occurs when everything aligns perfectly in our lives. But the Bible speaks of a different kind of joy—the joy of the Lord—which is not dependent on our circumstances. This kind of joy is resilient, lasting through hard times and trials because it’s anchored in something deeper. Today, let’s explore what it means to steal back that kind of joy.
The Joy of the Lord: Not Circumstantial
The joy of the Lord isn’t a fleeting feeling. It isn’t dependent on good news, a successful project, or a happy day. This kind of joy endures because it is based on the eternal nature and promises of God, not on our constantly shifting circumstances. In Psalm 16, David tells us:
The joy that comes from being in God’s presence isn’t about what’s going on around us; it’s about what’s going on inside us—knowing that we belong to Him.
The difference between joy and happiness becomes evident during times of difficulty. Happiness is fleeting, something that ebbs and flows on the shores of our lives based on external factors. Joy, however, is different—it stays rooted in us, even when we walk through hardships. The Apostle Paul reminds us:
For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
Paul endured immense suffering, yet he was able to maintain his joy because he understood that his current struggles were temporary compared to the eternal promises of God.
Another powerful reminder comes from the Prophet Nehemiah:
Joy has a power that goes beyond human resilience—it strengthens us in ways that happiness never can. Joy in God gives us the ability to face challenges head-on because we know we are never alone, and our circumstances are not the end of the story.
The Ultimate Source of Joy
This enduring joy, unlike fleeting happiness, acts as our strong foundation during life’s uncertainties. As followers of Christ, we have every reason to hold onto joy, even in the face of life’s greatest challenges. This joy comes from knowing that, ultimately, our story ends in victory. At the end of all the struggles of this earthly life, there is a beautiful promise waiting for us: eternal life with Jesus. Revelation 21:4 gives us a glimpse of this incredible future:
In that moment, all the sorrows and losses of this life will be overshadowed by the joy of being fully united with our Creator.
Not only will we meet Jesus face-to-face, but we will also be reunited with those we love who have gone before us and who accepted the gift of grace Jesus has offered to us all. For those of us who have lost loved ones, this is a profound source of hope and joy. Imagine being reunited with your friends and family members whose passing you’ve mourned. I like to think our dogs will be there—not entirely sure about cats, but anything’s possible. That’s a discussion for another time. The point is that in heaven, there will no longer be separation, loss, or sorrow. There will be no fear or anxiety, because there will be nothing left to be afraid of or worry about. Sin, in all its forms—hatred, violence, bullying, and political ads—will be absent. What remains will be love, peace, and unending joy.
This kind of joy is what can sustain us here and now. It reminds us to be grateful when good things happen to us. It carries us through the crappy days. We can rejoice because we know how the story ends. Paul writes to his congregation in Rome:
Knowing that there is a glory beyond our current trials gives us the strength to keep moving forward, to smile even when we’re hurting, and to keep sharing love and hope with those around us.
Stealing Back Joy
If you feel like joy has been stolen from you, it’s time to steal it back. Not by chasing after the temporary highs of this world, but by seeking the lasting joy that comes from knowing Jesus. This joy doesn’t ignore pain or pretend everything is perfect—it sits with us in our grief, reminds us that we are not alone, and points us toward a future filled with hope and peace and loved ones and good dogs.
We can cultivate this joy by staying in God’s presence through prayer, worship, and immersing ourselves in His Word. Recall what I referred to from Psalm 16:11 earlier, it’s in His presence that we find fullness of joy. We can also find joy by serving others, by being a light in their dark times, and by sharing the hope we have in Jesus. In doing so, we not only strengthen our own joy, but we help others find theirs too.
No matter what you’re facing today, remember that the joy of the Lord is your strength. Joy is not out of reach. It’s already yours in Christ—sometimes we just need to steal it back from the distractions, anxieties, and struggles that threaten to take it away at every pothole in our life journeys. Let’s live in that joy, let’s share it, and let’s let it be our strength every single day.
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